I just found my name on a Twitter list entitled, “Fearless Women.” I also found myself on a blog post by Kristi H ines called “125 Fearless Females Bloggers.” It’s flattering and an honor to be included, but I’m also confused by the inclusion.
You see, I’m always afraid. Not in a chicken, cowardly sort of way, but more in a way that I worry about things like outcome , reputation and failure. I don’t jump into things, I carefully weigh the pros adn cons, and think about how all my actions will affect others.
I’m always afraid.
To me, being fearless means:
- Not being afraid to try something new
- Writing things without worrying about how others will react
- Attending conferences, meetups, tweetups and other events without worrying I won’t l know anyone
- Approaching others to join a conversation without worrying about saying the right thing
- Applying for opportunities I know I’m perfect for, without a second thought as to whether or not I’m truly perfect for them
- Getting past my millions of insecurities to succeed
But I like being afraid sometimes because being afraid means:
- I think about what I’m doing before I’m doing. I might be afraid to fail, but when I take the time to plan things out, it’s less likely failure will happen.
- I think about what I’m going to say, before I say it. It might not be what I really want to say but at least there are no misunderstandings or hurt feelings later.
- Worrying about my reputation means it’s important how I represent me as well as the brand I’m working for in a positive light.
- Impulsive isn’t always an asset, sometimes it’s seen as a detriment which cause people to think twice about working or spending time with me.
Being Afraid Keeps Us in Check
I know there are people who think I’m kind of silly because I’m not so headstrong and worry a lot about making others feel uncomfortable. But I think there’s something to be said about being the right kind of afraid. I’m not paranoid of every single step I take, but I do like to take the time to consider how my actions will affect me, the people around me, the people I love and the people I work for.
How does being afraid keep YOU in check? Are you fearless? What are the types of things you worry about?
Tell us, is it better to be fearless or afraid?