Comments on: Shaming Unfollowers: Should We Really Take it So Personally?

By: Jackie @ freeismylife

Jackie @ freeismylife — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 22:38:59 +0000

It would be a waste of my precious time to monitor if someone unfollowed me and then try to shame that person into rethinking their decision. I would like followers who actually read my blog and are getting some value from it. Nuff said.

By: Jake LaCaze

Jake LaCaze — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 15:35:31 +0000

Calling someone out for unfollowing you is immature. I monitor people who unfollow me by using Qwitter, but I don’t call them out or take it personally. If you’re not losing followers, you might not be growing and developing. I unfollow people all the time, after I give them a trial basis and realize that we’re not meshing. I’d be embarrassed if someone said something about it.

By: Jean Sarauer

Jean Sarauer — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 15:29:40 +0000

Good Lord, do people really have time to get their knickers in a knot over this stuff?

Number one, I can’t imagine wasting my time and energy finding out who unfollowed me, let alone making a big fuss over it when someone does. Number two, I don’t see how ‘shaming’ a former follower would ever help me attract new followers.

Ah well, it takes all types to keep the world in balance.

By: LPC

LPC — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 15:25:34 +0000

Deb, I agree with you – although I came to that understanding only after a while. Twitter is different than the fleshworld, so it can take a little while to parse the ins and outs. As for that message, as James says, it’s automated. I use who.unfollowed.me, and you have to make sure you don’t check the box to tweet your updates. That said, the service is also one of the ways I learned to relax about followers, unfollowers, etc., as I realized that many “followers” are just corporate ghosts.

By: James Schipper

James Schipper — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 14:30:55 +0000

That unfollow message you got is an automated Twitter app. Of course by someone who cares who is following enough to sign up with that service so it would automatically send that tweet.

I unfollow negative people as a general rule. Those who mock people when they unfollow them and can’t make the jump in logic to figure out the connection are on that list.

There was one guy whose stream was full of “don’t let the door hit you on the butt” and other insecurities about how many followers left that day. I don’t know how he manages to make any money as a life coach.

By: AmyV

AmyV — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 13:44:28 +0000

Bra-vo. I don’t understand when people take so much offense. Sure, if it’s someone you’ve known forever and they unfollow you without saying anything first, it’s understandable to be hurt. But I don’t even pay attention to who’s unfollowing, because I figure they just weren’t interested. Why should people follow me if they’re not interested in what I’m tweeting about?

I’m also a high-volume tweeter when I live-tweet events. On days I live-tweet I send out multiple warnings and say I take no offense if anyone unfollows. I’m sure some do, and some tell me they’re unfollowing and going to come back the next day, after the high volume is over. I show consideration for them, and they show it to me. Some just suck it up for the day and joke about how their entire twitter stream seems it’s me. I appreciate those folks very much.

If someone I don’t know is gonna get all pissy at me for unfollowing them, I’m not going to lose sleep over it.