Is Social Media Causing You to Stage Your Life?

I totally staged this photo so all on Facebook could see my perfect, work at home, lifestyle.

I totally staged this photo so all on Facebook could see my perfect, work at home, lifestyle.

I just stopped myself from styling a photo featuring my laptop, wireless mouse, cell phone, and cup of coffee in order to illustrate a Facebook update about being back to work and reality.

And just this weekend I stopped myself from taking photos of a beautiful smoke ring on a brisket my husband spent hours to cook, a giant jug of sangria, and half dozen kids eating barbecue while sitting on top of my shed.

I stopped myself from sharing those things  because I realized I don’t need to get on Facebook and prove my good time every time I have a good time.

I’m trying to stop staging my life.

I feel like Facebook and Instragram have taken spontaneity away in favor of a more stylized approach and  I’m not being honest – not only with my friends on social media, but with myself.

Perfectly Styled Activities

I see staged, styled updates more often through my friends who work in social media than those I like to affectionately refer to as my “civilian” friends, but almost everyone does it to some extent.

If you’re on social media any amount of time you might recognize the following:

  • The laptop with notebook, pen, and cup of coffee (or wine if it’s after 5:00) strategically placed around so as to reveal a cozy lifestyle of writing and social media updates. Even the screen saver or task highlighted on screen has a purpose.
  • The spontaneous selfie that just happens to be taken in front of a bookshelf filled with books authored by friends – all of whom are tagged in the Instagram update.
  • Children adorably focused on a particular task as if they weren’t told five minutes before not to look at the camera.
  • Selfies of parents attentively listening to children reading, except they’re somehow able to take a photo.
  • Selfies taken while the subject is sleeping. How does that work?
  • Perfectly manicured toes in front of a beach or pool backdrop. (I took a few of these before I realized no one needs to see my feet, even in front of an ocean.)
  • Food with strategically placed fork, knife, and obligatory glass of wine, craft beer or 740 year old Scotch.
  • People who you meet in real life who look nothing like their photoshopped, airbrushed, 20 years ago photos on social media.

People are welcome to portray their lives however they want. But I’m also starting to feel as if we’re losing the honesty, innocence, and integrity of a situation when we stop being spontaneous or candid in order to perfectly stage it. When we have to stop life in order to make it better for a photograph what we’re saying to our kids is “You’re not doing this well enough. Let’s make it picture perfect to mean something. Let’s perfectly pose you to receive validation.”

As someone who stages my life I know I’m part of the problem and I’m not comfortable with that anymore.

There’s a Difference Between Story Telling and Telling Tall Tales

I’m starting to think a lot about oversharing and what I post online.  I have the same uncomfortable feeling I had back in high school or when I worked in an office and I tried so hard to impress others so they’d like me or think I have this amazing life.

Social media is about story telling. However, in this public-facing world we have to be careful not to cross the line from story telling into tall tales. There’s a difference between sharing a fun moment and invading someone’s privacy or making others feel bad for not leading a particular lifestyle.

Though I’m guilty of staging my life online – and I do admit it – I’m not embarrassed of who I am. So please don’t be surprised if you find I’m sharing more spontaneous and less staged. I hope you’ll still like me.


50 Places to Find Social Media Jobs


This is the third time we’re listing places to find social media jobs. The first list was published in July 2010 and featured 25 Places to Find Social Media Jobs. In 2013, I responded to poplar demand and published a list of 24 Places to Find Social Media Jobs. I’m beginning to receive emails again about the list being outdated, so today, I’m offering a new list. If you’re a job seeker, I hope you’ll find this list useful.

50 Places to Find Social Media Jobs

  1. The Social Media Jobs group on Facebook – My favorite place to look when I’m searching out new clients and opportunities. Plenty of good stuff from name brands to smaller businesses.
  2. Social Media Jobs – Social media job listings and tips for landing them.
  3. ProBlogger – Still the best place to find freelance blogging jobs.
  4. The Mashable Job Board – Has some great leads available from time to time.
  5. Flexjobs – You’ll have to pay a fee to view the gigs but there are many social media, community management, blogging, and digital marketing jobs listed and many are exclusive only to that job board.
  6. Work From Home Companies – Totally throwing my friend’s job listing blog in here but she’s had a few good remote social media jobs listed so I feel justified.
  7. Craigslist – Craigslist is totally hit or miss and you have to weed through some clunkers to find the gems – but they’re in there.
  8. – It’s a bidding site but if you’re good at what you do, you can find plenty of steady clients.
  9. Fiverr – The secret to doing well with Fiverr is having a good upsell. I know many social media professionals who land regular, well paying clients with one Fiverr ad.
  10. – One of the most popular job search engines on the web. even powers the social media job search engine we have here at Kommein.
  11. Simply Hired – A job search engine. Has some good stuff from time to time.
  12. Twitter – By searching hashtags and using keywords you can come across some excellent job tweets.
  13. – Popular job search service, lists plenty of social media jobs.
  14. Career Builder – Job search site for professionals, lists many social media opportunities.
  15. The Ladders – Features jobs paying over $100,00
  16. Dice – Technically it lists tech jobs but you’ll also find social media and digital marketing jobs there.
  17. LinkedIn – Many top brands are advertising their social media jobs on LinkedIn.
  18. The Community Manager – Features a job list for online community managers.
  19. – Another job search engine that yields good results.
  20. FlipDog – Combs the web to bring you search results from different sites.
  21. Jobs in Social Media – A search engine listing social media jobs from around the country.
  22. Elance – It’s a bidding site, if that’s your thing.
  23. Jobster – Search engine powered by ZapPoint.
  24. JobFox – Sign up and get alerts!
  25. Media Bistro – Though it’s more of a job search for publishers and writers you’ll find there are many social media job opportunities as well.
  26. Upwork – Job Marketplace and bidding site for freelancers.
  27. #TweetMyJobs – Hashtag for jobs – not all are social media, though, so you’ll have to do a bit of weeding.
  28. #SocialMediaJobs- Another hashtag with some hidden gems. There’s lots of spam, though.
  29. #SMJobs – Another hashtag for social media job hunters.
  30. Social Media Headhunter – Blog featuring jobs and tips.
  31. Marketing Edge – You have to sign up to see jobs including social media jobs and digital marketing jobs.
  32. Freelance Writing Jobs – Lists plenty of blogging jobs as well as the occasional social media jobs. (And hey – I’m the founder and former owner!)
  33. Blogging Pro: The Blogging Pro Job Board is filled with freelance blogging jobs.
  34. CareerArc – Lists social media jobs.
  35. Glassdoor – Another job site that has social media jobs listed.
  36. – Lists online community manager jobs.
  37. Gamasutra – Site of interesting to game developers, but there are a few listings for social media jobs in the gaming industry.
  38. Jobing – Enter your zip code and search locally.
  39. Startup Hire – If the startups are hiring, you’ll find their social media jobs listed here.
  40. Snag-a-job – A job search site for hourly workers.
  41. Adweek/Social Times – Lists social media jobs here and there.
  42. Onward Search – Lists Digital Marketing and Creative Jobs.
  43. Hootsuite – Who knew?
  44. New Media Hire – Lists many jobs in new media including social media, design, and sales.
  45. Social Media Club Dallas – Featuring a social media job board.
  46. CareerRookie – Features entry level positions and internships.
  47. HooJobs – Shares P.R, social media, and communications jobs.
  48. Only Digital Jobs – Shares social media jobs in London, UK.
  49. Social News Daily – Blog that also lists the top social media jobs of the week.
  50. Social Hire – Includes a jobs search board yielding many social media job results.

Did I miss anything? If you know of some cool places to find social media jobs let me know and I’ll add them to the next update.

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